“Yes, I’m defined by motherhood. At this moment in time, at least. And I’m okay with that.”
Since you gave birth, have you received advice from well-meaning family and friends, urging you not to lose sight of yourself? Reminders that one day your tiny baby will no longer need you and you will be in for a rude awakening?
The trend to not be defined by motherhood is a relatively new one, and has gained traction on social media, writes Beck Vieira for babycenter.com blog.
She argues that she is happy to be defined by motherhood, for at least a short time, and devoting herself to her son is what she wants to do right now.
“I became a mother later in life. I had the career, the travels, the girls’ nights outs. I was 40 years-old when I got pregnant, 41 when my son was born. I’m lucky to be able to take a break from work and stay home with him. I absolutely love it. I’ve dreamed of this and I embrace it wholeheartedly.”
When it comes to motherhood, there is no guidebook, she notes in her blog post.
“Motherhood is like an IKEA store, it’s easy to get lost. You think you’re heading in one direction and before you know it you’re somewhere else entirely.” This can be consuming, but Vieira urges new mothers not to worry; women are the sum of all their parts, and how they choose to define themselves is just that – their choice.
“When asked right now who I am or what I do, my answer is always “I’m a mother.” Maybe some people find that wrong. I’m a writer, wife, daughter, friend, postpartum depression survivor, Instagram addict. Yes, those matter. Just not as much to me right now.”
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