Pressure, anxiety, and loneliness, after giving birth can affect how some women bond with their baby. This is a totally natural response to the brand new challenges that motherhood can bring, yet new mothers can be devastated by these feelings that contrast with everything they’ve been led to expect.
Amy told the site that she was affected by anxiety for about four months postpartum after her son suffered reflux and other health concerns. “I was terrified my son would die, and that I couldn’t do what I needed to help him. Our bond suffered in that time. I was more consumed with the possibility of him dying than building our relationship.”
Meanwhile Leslie explained the difficulties she had bonding with her second child, struggling with two children to care for. “I struggled juggling a toddler and newborn because I was the primary parent and was dealing with postpartum depression and anxiety. I didn’t have time to connect with my baby because I didn’t have any help with my toddler.”
Beth was eventually diagnosed with post-natal depression, and recalls how this made her feel like a bad mother.
“The worst moment was when she was crying for hours one night, and nothing would soothe her. I remember thinking this was how women hurt their children. The next day I had my six-week appointment, and when my doctor asked how I was, I burst into tears. I told him I hated being a mother, that my daughter hated me, and I wasn’t sure I could do this.”
Finally, Sabrina explains that when her husband returned to work, that’s when things got difficult for her. “I constantly worried about the worst case scenario and there were times I didn’t even feel like he was my baby.”
She has advice for new mothers: “To the moms out there struggling: Each day is a new day. Take a deep breath, start over, and know you’re going to be OK.”
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