In the era of social media, new mothers may feel as if “Insta-mums” are making motherhood look like a piece of (nicely-filtered) cake.
Clemmie Hooper is a midwife and mother of four who has over 470,000 followers on Instagram, where she is known as @mother_of_daughters. An author of a best-selling book on pregnancy, she is the first to admit that it’s not as easy as it looks. Her posts, from a personal and professional point of view, seek to reassure pregnant women and new mothers that there are no rights and wrongs when it comes giving birth and raising children.
In a recent post she explained: “They say ‘it takes a village’ but with parenting moving further and further away from this concept, it’s no coincidence that parental mental health difficulties are on the rise. Quite simply we’re not meant to parent alone.
“There was no instagram when I became a young mum at 23, it was a lonely and isolating time. But fast forward 10 years and I can honestly say I feel like have an entire village of mums I follow and connect with on a daily basis.”
“Let’s talk about birth and mode of delivery to be exact. This is me a week before the twins were born. Twin 1 was breech, twin 2 was transverse… I was all for an elective C-section – at this point I just wanted them out (and to be able to see my feet again),” she writes honestly.
The midwife then took the opportunity to dispel some of the myths surrounding “normal deliveries”.
“Recently I cared for a woman who had had a previous emergency C-section… she told me that if she didn’t try for a ‘normal delivery’ she felt like she’s failed and let her her body down. I was shocked that still women are going into birth feeling like this. To me as a midwife birth is birth! The day a baby is born not the way it comes out. It’s about empowering women, supporting their choices and really listening to what they’re saying. In the end my twins both went head down and I had a vaginal birth but I know this isn’t always the norm for twins.”
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