As one of the most, if not the most, profound and life changing experiences a woman will go through, childbirth remains something that is discussed in hushed tones, if at all. This compounded by lack of honest depictions of the reality of childbirth – Facebook and Instagram ban such images, categorising them alongside porn.
She says the culture of secrecy surrounding childbirth is damaging to women who give birth.
“Surely there are a thousand #MeToo moments happening in delivery rooms across the country, in part due to pregnant women’s ignorance and fear. We don’t know what’s right, which means that, also, we don’t know what’s wrong,” she writes.
According to Eva, she felt unable to discuss her own childbirth experience, thinking people found it unacceptable.
“Quite soon after I’d given birth, I realised that, because my baby was healthy, and I’d eventually made it home, it was no longer considered appropriate to talk about the experience. Which was annoying, because it was the biggest, most profound, painful, traumatic, bizarre thing I’d experienced in my life, and I was keen to pick over it, explore it a little more,” she says.
“I felt a pressure to move on, and count my 6lb of blessings, rather than focus any more on what happened in hospital.”
She urges women to share their own experiences with expectant mothers but accepts that this isn’t the norm.
“When I’d talk to other women about their own experiences, I’d notice a familiar fearful energy in their eyes: there’s a cautiousness in what we’re encouraged to share.”
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