New mothers often don’t speak up about one of the toughest parts of new motherhood – the unsolicited advice that family, friends, and even strangers feel entitled to offer.
Sometimes that advice can even translate into direct criticism – and at an emotional time such as the few days after baby’s arrival into the world, new mums aren’t always happy to brush it off.
Popular Australian mummy blogger Constance Hall recently celebrated the birth of her fifth child Raja, and posted a photo for her 313,000 followers on Instagram to share in her delight. Yet what she wasn’t expecting was to be attacked for what she was doing in the photo.
And what was it? Holding a can of soft drink and texting on her phone. Constance received angry comments on her Facebook and Instagram, with many asking why she was distracted by her phone instead of doting on her newborn son.
One supportive follower wrote: “I read in a article that this BEAUTIFUL picture had received some negative comments…..sorry but this woman has carried and grown a human, endured morning sickness and hormones then gone through labour, I should think after all that the woman is allowed to let her partner and the child’s father watch it for a few minutes while she enjoys a drink and looks on her phone – most likely letting family know about the arrival of the baby!”
Another said: “Love this photo, and you look incredible just after having your little beautiful boy and look at his daddy, just doting on him, you rock!”
Constance fought back, saying people should be concerned about their own children. “They are your problem, how you raise them, what YOU’RE doing on your phone, what kind of a mother YOU are.”
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