Everyone would agree that motherhood should be a safe and positive experience for all. The reality is that this is not the case for a large proportion of women. Whether they have difficulties in pregnancy, in childbirth, or in the early days of new motherhood, the level of societal, medical, financial, and emotional support will vary considerably.
Sandra, from Romania, spoke honestly about her experience of childbirth and new motherhood. Although she had a positive relationship with her doctor, she endured a difficult labour and says it was both long and eventful.
“Giving birth was the scariest day of my life. I was so scared during birth. All I could do was pray to God that everything would go well,” she says.
“The actual birth experience was extremely hard. I was in labour for 17 hours and still wasn’t able to give birth. I was losing my strength and the baby’s pulse was falling, when the doctors finally decided to do a C-section.”
Sandra admits she regrets her choice of birthing centre. “I really wanted to give birth in a public hospital, not a private clinic. I am not sure I would make the same choice now. I would still choose the same doctor though.”
She also describes a feeling that many women can relate to, the feeling of helplessness during a medical intervention. “During the C-section I felt totally helpless, knowing that I had no control and that everything was depending on the doctors and God.”
Yet this did not impact her bonding with her child. “The moment that really marked my motherhood experience was when doctors put the baby on my chest. I felt the strongest bond in those couple of seconds. I literally felt the blood rushing through my veins straight into my heart and I knew instantly that from that moment on, I was going to live for two.”
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